Other mothers think they’ve got parenting down pat, they think that this is as “hard” as it gets.. They think that their baby/toddler is in the “perfect” sleeping pattern and that bath time is a breeze, they think that breakfast, lunch and dinner is done properly.. they think that they change nappies the right amount of times per day, they think that they cuddle them enough, and that they show them enough attention.. they think that their partners help them enough.. they think that they’re doing everything right because a friend of a friend has 2 kids and this is how they do it.. they think that it’s okay that their house is messy and their dirty laundry pile is so big, because the nurses say “that can be done later”
I’m raising my 3rd baby, and believe me when I say that i know i have NOT got it down pat! I know that it just continues to get harder, there is always something that pops up unexpectedly.
because we’re fucking human, we cannot prepare ourselves for the unknown!
I know that my baby’s sleeping pattern WILL change as she grows, or just because she’s human and we change.. constantly! Bath time.. She decided her own routine for bathing (yes that’s right my month old baby decided her own bathing routine) I do NOT bathe her like the textbook from the 50’s says.. I bathed her in a baby bath at 6pm every night, she cried every time, she didn’t settle well afterwards. So I started showering with her at around 7pm (I say around 7 because let’s be honest no one is EVER spot on) and she loved it, no tears.. and settled perfectly afterwards, she loves being in the ‘big bath’ with mummy.. sometimes she even showers with daddy, because it’s nice to change things up a bit. Feeding time for us is either, her attached to my boob while I eat or fold clothes or we are sitting down watching each other like there is nothing else in the world! It doesn’t have to be a big deal to sit and feed your baby, it’s part of being human.. (you do not deserve a medal because you skipped brekky to feed her) when my older 2 were toddlers it was simple.. breakfast, either they are starving or they don’t want anything but half an hour after you’ve packed everything away you could guarantee they were hungry! And that’s totally fine, because not everyday or night is the same! Lunch time, was either a wonderful experience where I’d see my little humans brains begin to work overtime, their taste buds coming to life or they’d throw the bowl on the floor and blow raspberries in my face to give mummy a ‘food shower’ and that was perfectly fine by me, my little human was developing a personality. I never just gave up on that food, because this one time they didn’t like it.. Dinner.. same as lunch, NEXT! Sometimes, they’d like the one thing for a week straight and not eat anything else but that one thing the whole week..
Our toddlers are people, they are and will be unique stop trying to make them sheep!
When I had my first baby, i changed his nappy every hour during daylight! (most of the time he was still dry) but when my second baby arrived, i changed her after feeds unless she’d surprise me with a poo.. Or if she just felt wet.. baby number 3.. (yep you guessed it) She gets changed when needed! No-one is the same, including our little ones, just because Mary’s baby gets changed every 2 hours doesn’t mean your baby has to be!
No-one hugs their baby enough. nope, no-one! You either think you cuddle enough or you think you cuddle too much, either way.. it’s not enough! there is not enough hours in the day for the amount of hugs we should be giving.. (In 7 years from now, you’ll wish you spent more time cuddling that tiny baby) So cuddle your baby, as much as you want or can.. because he’s yours! You can NEVER pay your baby too much attention either, the more you talk to your baby, the more she’ll learn. The more you look at her, the better you’ll know her.
Daddies, hands on dads are a god send! There is nothing sexier than a man who knows his baby.. It’s wonderful to watch them together, to see the love that he has for his creation.. It’s easier on us mummies if dad is around a lot to help out with things.. But some daddies can’t be around as much, We as mothers need to encourage them to spend as much time as possible with our little one’s as possible because babies need a bond with daddies too, it helps shape the person they will become!
Daddies are just as important as mummies, duh!
WE ARE DIFFERENT!! Our children have different needs, just because your friend parents one way, doesn’t mean that’s how you should parent.. you need to find whats best for you! Because I can guarantee that you’re setting yourself up for disaster if you think because baby jack down the road, settles to music then your baby should too. MESSY HOUSE? I believe that every house does get messy, but just because someone told you to leave it for a while and pay attention to your baby doesn’t mean you should! No-one can be happy in a dirty house, it’s much more comfortable in a tidy house.. If you wash once a day then you won’t have an overwhelming pile of dirty laundry to wash,dry and fold.. kids sleep, if you do a tidy before you go to bed at night.. you’ll wake to a clean house, the kids can be put down because there isn’t scrap paper on the floor for them to choke on or last nights spaghetti hidden under the dining room table! A clean house give you more time to spend with your little one, or on your own because you can actually put baby down. (or you can live like a pig whatever)
Being a mum isn’t easy, but it’s the best job in the world! You’ve just got to roll with it.. be the mum that your kids need for today, because tomorrow they’ll need something different!